Two Very Hard Things
First, it’s very hard to get a thought or an idea from one person’s mind into another person’s mind. One reason is that ideas tend to adapt to the context they land in, like a chameleon changing colors in different environments. Ideas are also fragile. During packaging and transport they can easily break, like glass, or get reshaped like clay. Finally, ideas also need a reliable delivery method, but that part is not always reliable. Think of delivery methods as language, images, gestures, writing, voice, in person conversations, phone calls, and so on.
Second, it’s very hard to feel strong emotions but not act on them. I only recently became really aware of this. We all do it to some extent, but I have struggled to put words to it. Lots of people give huge weight to their emotions and let those feelings guide most of their decisions. Others numb their emotions and barely feel anything, and we tend to describe them as cold. What seems most useful is to feel strong emotions but still be able to choose whether we act on them or not. In that case feelings become a message or a data point we can integrate into our decision making.