Thinking flaws Tuesday:"Pourquoi moi?"

“Why me?” is the question she is asking herself. Why is she the one who has been blessed? Why is she the one who needs to suffer? The answer: It is not about her, ever.

“Why me?” never comes alone. It comes with gratitude or despair, the good or the bad, which poses one problem: There is no good or bad.

Good or bad is a judgement. It’s a judgement that is made, a thought that is thought, based on the degree of understanding and awareness of the whole. The same event can be good or bad. Bad things are good and good things are bad. If she saw it that way, good or bad would vanish from her mind and instead it would make her realise what her place is within the whole.

“Why me?” When that question comes to her mind, she thinks about it in the context of self. It takes place in a setting where she is the absolute centre of what she is experiencing. What happened, happened to her. It is not egocentric but it is the automatic default setting of how she perceives the experience.

Her experience is what happens to her. She can experience her own feelings but she can’t feel other people’s feelings without any sort of clues or communication. She can only perceive things based on how her brain has been wired to be aware and understand the whole.

When she is stuck with “Why me?” she is the centre of what she perceives. Her world is isolated from the rest of the whole. If she stepped out of her default setting of perception she could now see that not only good and bad has vanished but that “Why me?” is not a viable question anymore. By stepping out she can’t think about her experience without considering the whole, and “Why me?” now asks to be answered within the whole. That is not where the answer lies but where “Why me?” dies.

“Pourquoi moi?” has committed suicide.